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Re: Talking in sleep about making love to another

Posted by sleepyrick on April 04, 1998 at 11:20:55:

In Reply to: Talking in sleep about making love to another posted by Anthoney on April 02, 1998 at 21:43:23:

Anyone who'd threaten divorce over sleep vocalizations needs an education into the world of sleep.

Understanding and compassion on your part will be vital. A willingness to examine and change her own previous and incorrect assumptions about dreams will be vital on her part.

You have NO control over your sleep vocalizations AND they DO NOT have any connection to your waking life sexual partners or desires.

Does she realize that you have NO control over dream content?

That the rational part of the brain (the frontal cortex) is SHUT OFF in REM sleep? (recent research using PET scanners proved this)

That it is completely normal and natural to be physically sexually aroused EVERY TIME you enter REM sleep and that this is 4-6 times per night every night? Both men and women become physically sexually aroused in REM sleep. Engorged sexual organs (labia, clitorus, and penis), fast heart rate, irregular breathing, etc.

The only unusual thing about your dreams is that you vocalize.

Why doesn't she simply take the opportunity to make productive use of the physical arousal you are experiencing at the time? She could sure turn your unconscious thoughts into conscious thoughts about her in a hurry!

Once she realises that your dream content lover has NO connection to reality, I hope and pray that she laughs off your vocalizations and accepts them for what they are: a gift of continuing sexual interest(at least in the dream world).

A good counselor should be able to help her accept all this if she has trouble accepting it from me. After all, I'm just a voice on the internet.

Good luck.

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