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Re: 17 month old keeps us up all night -- out of ideas

Posted by Stephanie on January 20, 2001 at 17:59:07:

In Reply to: Re: 17 month old keeps us up all night -- out of ideas posted by Kevin on January 20, 2001 at 11:27:46:

Just a few observations.

You mention that your son cried "an angry tantrum like cry". It sounds like you have a very determined toddler! He knows where he wants to sleep, and it isn't alone in his room. (I have a child just like yours, with very definite opinions.) You are correct, "sleep training" does NOT work with these kinds of children. Take heart, this is a good thing! These kinds of children generally grow up to be very strong, self-reliant adults with tremendous drive and strength of character! But back to your sleep question....

One thing that might help is to place a toddler bed in your room, possibly at the foot of your bed? This way he is close to you and if he wakes up and needs you, he can crawl into your bed. Then when he falls back asleep you can put him back in his own bed if you want. If you are worried about him falling out of bed, put a folded blanket or pillow by the side of his bed. He will probably roll out a few times, but he will not be hurt, and it will help him become aware of the edge of the bed when he is asleep, just like adults are.

If you give him some freedom (a toddler bed as opposed to a crib) this may help you avoid nighttime power struggles with your son.

The "hitting and kicking" you at night may simply be his way of saying that he wants his space. I have 2 children that enjoy being cuddled to sleep, but then want the entire bed to themselves! LOL His crying may be just because of separation anxiety,something VERY common at this age, which may have been intensified by your attempts to "sleep train" him. If this is the case, it may take a while for him to become more secure, but he will eventually outgrow this phase. If you give a child what they need, they will outgrow the need. Why not try a toddler bed in your room, or even a sleeping bag on the floor would work. This way he gets what he needs (you) and you get what you need (sleep!) :-)


Best wishes for a good night's sleep!

Stephanie, mom to 4 boys and a princess!

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