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Posted by chul on February 09, 2002 at 16:52:37:In Reply to: Getting a 3-week old to bed: what can be expected? posted by Julia's mom on February 08, 2002 at 16:46:29:
Hi I would just like to say to you, love and enjoy your little girl while she's tiny and needs you the most, both my children slept with me and my husband and were fed throughout the night in bed, we got it down to such a fine art (my daughter and me) that i would fall asleep with her nursing on my left breast and I would wake up with her already attatched and feeding on my right, we both got sleep and she learnt that I was always there for her WHEN SHE NEEDED ME.
When she was tiny, she often slept in a 'welsh shawl' however she was always put down to sleep in her crib in the daytime, as she got older, she complained sometimes, but i would just reassure her i was still around and then she would go off to sleep. At night, as the feeds got less frequent, we put her down more and more in her crib - Which was in our room.
Some babies love the feeling of being held, after all they had it for nine months and its scary being 3 weeks old and having what seems like huge spaces and very quiet rooms, in the womb, they are surrounded by the noises of your body and 'held' and rocked continuously, she will grow and become independant fast enough, trust me.
Two things that worked with my 2 children, I carried on with my routine and didn't tip-toe around them, they learnt to sleep through noise (sfter all, they have to in the womb) and also they recognised the sounds of the hoover or polishing as me being 'around'.
My son always had to be wrapped up quite securely in a shawl to fall asleep (he is now 10 and is a happy, independant young man)and my beautiful daughter, she slept with me until she was about 4 months old, she also loved the sound of the tumble drier and dishwasher, which I was told resemble sounds from the womb, and she is now 2 and in her own bed, in her own room, (tho she doesn't sleep but thats another story) she has a disgusting bunny that was bought for her at birth and always left in the crib, she won't sleep without it, so much so that we had to buy a spare and allow that to become disgusting too, in case she loses the original!!!
She breaks her heart when I wash it, it doesn't feel or smell the same! Other than that, children learn to be independant, and to have trust from you, if they have plenty of love and are allowed to explore or experiment, knowing you will always be there, they will be fine.
My advice, keep her close to you, she might feel a bit 'lost' after 9 months being with you, enjoy her, love her lots and you will be rewarded. If it doesn't go how you planned, then children can be 're-trained' at a later stage, when they are able to understand what you require of them.
Hope this helps
Rachel
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