Posted by F43 on June 01, 2009 at 16:20:35:In Reply to: Re: feedback would be appreciated posted by lulubelle on June 01, 2009 at 15:59:24:
lulubelle, it's been 5 years since my mom died, and 6 since my dad...and I'm still working through that grief. Most days it takes the form of pleasure in my memories and my sense of them, when I "talk" to them (which I do almost every day). Every few months I seem to do a major inventory (not planned, it just happens) of how their loss has affected me. That sounds so...perfunctory. It's just me talking to myself, and talking to them about what I miss. The conversation I have with myself is different every time. It's helped to talk to my therapist about the loss, but like you, I focus more on sleep, or other areas in my place that cause more distress. Grief lays low sometimes, like a soft lapping wave at night. As you say, sometimes you just don't know what to do with it.