Narcolepsy Forum Posting

Posted by chucker on July 05, 2001 at 11:13:55:

In Reply to: thanks posted by girlfriend on July 05, 2001 at 08:43:13:

hey kid...

i was him... unfortunately i didn't have a you. i didn't have an angel to help and guide me, i didn't have someone to help me understand that not driving when i was tired didn't mean i was less of a man. i may not have listened anyway but then, i'll never know that either. canine said it right and i'd simply like to encourage you to not worry as much about how he will percieve you in your efforts to help him but rather to base what you say and how strongly you say on the seriousness and the far reaching effects of his continuing to not listen to you. this is a bit cold and hard but it is reality and i would be amiss were i to present it to you any other way. i speak through personal experiance and from knowing of many others who didn't listen. i'll spare you the details of the accidents i caused, the misery (thank God no deaths) i inflicted on others etc because each time after an accident i always said well, that was just a particular bad time and i'll be more careful from now on.

"from now on" never occured until an angel came into my life who decided that our relationship, our being together, our love was not as important as our own or someone elses life. it never occured until she relayed that difficult to say, difficult not to water down message to me. she told me it was because she loved me that she would have to be the driver when i was tired and then followed up by ... not sure how to say this but... by showing increased affection for me when i aquiessed to her request and by reminding me that she loved me even more because i listened to her. she didn't ask me she told me. eventually it became the norm, not a question about who would drive and making sure that my friends knew what to do if i started nodding off while driving and arrainging our lives so i'd always be able to drive alone to work and back. things like leaving early so that if i started to doze i could pull off the road, call her on the cell phone and put in a wake up call. she even bought me a phone that vibrated as well as rung so i wouldn't miss her call.

a lot of extra effort but certainly worth it.

a few other quickies about us. we, well me for sure, hate to to socialize, however if we have an angel by our side willing to do the little things like find a place to rest if things get bad or plan an escape route from whatever's going on for us it makes it easier. we hate movie theatres because we can't take a break without missing the show. we like rent movies because we can. we don't like having a lot of casual friends because that means obligations that others take for granted. "hey, we'll be over at noon for a cookout tomorow" yuk... we do like close friends who understand. and we really hate to tell you that we're having a narcoleptic low in the middle of taataa time. you'll never get us to either. my angel learned to recognize that time... not hard to do.. and would mention what wonderful things might happen were i to take a small nap first.

a life of sacrife? to an extent but well worth it if he appreciates and loves you. one of the biggest reasons to follow canines advice and bring him here to the board is for him to see how rare you are! that angels are to be adored for their sacrifices. i no longer have mine because i didn't and although i'd give my world and everything in it to change that, i can't. give it all you got kid and good luck.

holding fast to the hope of what tomorow may bring

chucker

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