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Re: talking/dreams

Posted by LadyNightOwl on September 25, 2002 at 14:38:05:
In Reply to: talking/dreams posted by helpmeplease on September 10, 2002 at 16:30:25:
I don't know whether sleep talking and dreaming are related, but I would imagine so. I recently woke up my in-laws by sleep-talking in a hotel room while my fiance was in the hospital; my mother-in-law insists that she couldn't make out what I was saying, but I know I was dreaming about yelling at her, so I think maybe she's just being kind. I have a wonderful relationship with my mother-in-law, however, which brings me around to my point:
It is not fair to hold a person responsible for what his or her mind does while he or she is asleep.
Do dreams mean something? Sure. Do dreams mean everything? Absolutely not. Dreaming about other women does not necessarily mean that you're not happy in your present relationship, no more than dreaming about skydiving means you secretly want to quit your job and buy a parachute. When it comes to sex-related dreams, especially, the "forbidden fruit" factor is powerful--heterosexuals may dream about homosexual encounters (or vice-versa), married people may dream about sex with their neighbor's wives, etc, etc...this is perfectly normal, and does not have to mean that you're not happy in your current relationship or that you're mistaken about your sexual orientation. More often than not, it simply means that your mind was in the mood to be naughty, so it spiced things up with a little forbidden imagery. The assumption, here, of course, is that no one is listening in--which is why sleep-talking can be so awkward.
My advice to you--and your girlfriend--is not to base any assumptions about your relationship upon your dreams. Dreams are uninhibited, uncensored, and often unreliable glimpses into the subconscious. Although they can be revealing, they can also be misleading--you should never base important life decisions on dream analysis alone. If there is a problem in your relationship, it may well be reflected in your dreams, but--and trust me on this--that will never be the first or only clue.

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